Hugh Hefner has only been dead for a few weeks; we have yet to recover the language with which we can maturely and competently converse about sexuality. Witness the stammering “ah sucks” reaction of the accused when confronted by the speechless indignance of an all too titillated media. We’re not even close to having constructive dialogue with our fathers, brothers and sons about a righteous self-understanding of their masculinity let alone a discourse regarding true empowerment of our mothers, sisters and daughters.